Still, after the verdict, women's groups, some media, and some on-line banter revolved around the fact that the "scumbag" "got off", alongside cries of " No wonder women don't come forward" etc. Many women on-line took the same vocal position and I found myself pointing out to them a judge saw all the evidence and made an educated decision and that he really had no choice based on the evidence. Respected female writer Christie Blatchford covered the entire trial and could see no possible way of having any other verdict. So why such the push back? Was this guy perhaps a symbol of that asshole guy every woman has come across (no pun intended) and he was supposed to be their pound of flesh?
Too early on in this case, presented through the biased pre-trial eyes of the media, they'd already had him painted a villain and then the story tellers liked to merge his work conduct with these criminal allegations. That, combined with the Bill Cosby fiasco at the same time, made a perfect soup to feed all those a-hole man-haters, or once spurned partners, to have a local villain to focus on. Hey, I even had the guy convicted myself until the incredible evidence at the trial came out.
|Women are still Man's best friend despite court ruling|
Now, I'm not saying this guy isn't a creep or even a weirdo and I do believe he'll still be convicted on something, as he does have one more trial to face regarding workplace incidents, but being a creep and an A-hole doesn't warrant sexual assault convictions without supporting evidence, and if some women and supporters want that kind of justice they are just wrong. They simply picked the wrong case to rally around.
|Build bridges not barriers|
|Now here's an known abuser, with MPP Yvan Baker, left|
It may be odd that this guy enjoyed choking his partners, I certainly do find it so, but its not unheard of and it does normally involve two consenting partners. I first discovered people liked it, or at least practised it, when a woman I was dating asked me to. I was momentarily stunned. I knew I'd been out of the game for awhile but that was something I wasn't expecting and thought maybe it was what people did now. Sheesh, in my day, doggy style was as kinky as we got, or the old 69er. Lol.
Spanking too and pulling hair - both I've been asked to do, again I found it uncomfortable if not comedic. It went something like this,
" You can slap my ass if you want...if you want"..." Gulp I didn't want, but if I don't she'll think I'm not a "man"...
" A bit harder is fine" me: grimace
" ..and pull my hair" insert my confused look here
" Harder!" now deer in headlights look - Try doing all this at once!
Gulp...Which one!!! Ahhhhhhh!...she lost me...droop
|Meantime, across town, a protest ignored. We care girls.|
Still, If I were Gomeshi, I wouldn't want to face my mom and sister, who attended his court case, after all this coming out..